If love is a decision and not a dearest feeling (as actually is being said) I´ve always been wrong. None of those I think I´ve loved were of my wholehearted decision, but both a visceral feeling and a convenient like I had.
I never loved a lame or an ugly woman. I never loved a tall or fat girl, because before I loved someone I needed to know I was liked or loved first. If I fell in love it was when I thought I have found the one I liked believing I was liked (or loved) in turn.
Love needs commitments. I should be willing to give assurances, to supply those things a person wants or desires, from me, from things she or he would like to get with my help.
Human love have normal human hindrances and willful limits. Same way I cannot achieve certain personal goals, by circumstances, problems or average limitations, love also has stumbling blocks to be achieved to the fullest. It varies, it evolves and I´ve tried to model it to fits my needs instead of other´s feelings or conveniencies. It dimmed when I feared, it was lost when I or another person abandoned it and doubts also cashed its tolls, although time will change me with unknown limitations, with the abandonment I treated those who gave their best for me and age is leaving me behind in a position where I cannot ask much more than I could give a young woman, whose material or sexual dreams could be beyond my actual or present range of reach.
Love, as it is, could be richly expressed in words of actions. Deeds speak better than useless words and a healthy love demands daily attentions, same way I´ve cared for myself or familiar loved ones: I ate, I cleaned and gave myself indispensable things, whenever they were asked or needed.
Christian love is not rhetoric, although it is properly aromantic and asexual, because that sort of love is not selfish and, instead, it is prone to be Christ-centered. I can love someone I don´t know by helping him/her without thinking in things I could receive later on. I can feed the needy, because I know I also have been fed. I can give attentions to those who looked like seeking it, because true love is built up on giving, rather than on receiving things in turn.
Visceral love is self-seeking. It longs to be sexual, although it disguises under the covering of romanticism, during the time we haven´t been real friends. “I liked you”, “you liked me”; but we haven´t learned we´re not totally equals, and a time will come to show us we needed to adjust some things to keep that comradeship going on.
Why do I like some persons, and why others not?
For me it´s easy to love a smiling child but, whenever he/she cries, why do I stop from feeling it as love?
If it is not giving me pleasure, if I´m lacking something like a feeling of reward or “something good” I´ve got as a beautiful asset I´ve kept home in my zone of comfort, everything seems to fall off, tearing me apart in pieces that I don´t want it any longer: That´s not love!
Love is a decision I willfully keep on following, as long as it is permitted to look after.
God, as well, seems to be interested in loving and, I´m not too wrong when thinking He has set limits to it, because He Himself knows there are conditions He has established in Himself and, no doubt, He also knows when a person is unwilling to love and to be loved. He surely knows there are several conditions spurring up people to love (Heb 10:24) and, being so, genuine love cannot be forced, because there are ideal conditions to grow it up -like a tree- and fears may be hindering it in your life now. How many times you believed you chose correctly and someone wronged you so bad…
I don´t know if I´m been perfectionated in the art of loving. Most of my life I tried to live it out the best way I could, but I failed dozen of times and I have no time to additional regrets and more whinings. The Scripture challenges me (and you) to keep it on and, if it wasn´t a “new” command (1Jn_4:21), I believed it´s an old thing I knew from old times: “Deut 6:5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your strength.” If I loved Him, I´m compelled to love, also, His creation and, as a condition I didn´t know of, that commandment is tagged along this: “Luk 10:27 The man replied, "The Scriptures say, 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, strength, and mind.' They also say, 'Love your neighbors as much as you love yourself.' "” because His love is not selfish or covetous, as we are inclined to be (Exo_20:17; Lev_19:17-18)
No one would like to love a problem, yet problems aren´t casted out, except when beaten and fought positively in daily battles and unknown confrontations. If we´re formed to live earthly with some character and lasting endurance, here´s another way to see love: “1Jn 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment. But he that fears has not been made perfect in love.”
How easy it is to love a sleepy or smiling baby but, when unwanted problems comes, my mind would change whenever I´ve liked to run and hide.
It´s easy to like a person when I´m liked but, the moment I see those things quite differently, am I willing to stay with that person I chose (thinking I was perfectly chosen)? No one likes problems, quarrels or useless discussions. The ideal love is not seeking troubles, but joy, peace and loyal bonds, and even mute animals love to express their joy with their loved ones.
Love is an special event and, similarly, such miracles of love are done when certain conditions have applied: Miracles and love are conditionals. I deserve nothing and, same way as miracles are received by God´s grace, love could be received and welcome when God permits.
I don´t want to miss this chance to tell it once or twice: Some people liked to help God when saying His love is unconditional… What a “holy” lie!
Let me put here a brief list of those verses showing He demands certain conditions to love those who approached Him:
I cannot love God, alone, without loving what He loved when He sent His only begotten Son: “Jesus answered: Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind. This is the first and most important commandment. The second most important commandment is like this one. And it is, "Love others as much as you love yourself." ” (Mat 22:37-39)
If I don´t have love (or faith) in His Son, I´m out of the blessings of His covenant, because I am not getting His “faith” standards : “Joh 3:16 God loved the people of this world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who has faith in him will have eternal life and never really die. ”
I´m already condemned by disbelieving: “Joh 3:18 No one who has faith in God's Son will be condemned. But everyone who doesn't have faith in him has already been condemned for not having faith in God's only Son. ” So, believing, is His main condition to receive what He has in stock for me.
Believing in Him is also obeying: “Joh 14:1 Jesus said to his disciples, "Don't be worried! Have faith in God and have faith in me. ” “My sheep know my voice, and I know them. They follow me, and I give them eternal life, so that they will never be lost...” (Joh 10:27-28)
The Father loves His Son and He wants us to listen and follow Him (Matt 17:5): “Then Jesus said to all the people: If any of you want to be my followers, you must forget about yourself. You must take up your cross each day and follow me. ” (Luk 9:23) If I do not cope with that, I´m not accomplishing the conditions of a follower.
How come would some people insist on saying God´s love is unconditional? That´s what they´ve believed by hearing those parrots talking about man-made ideas making use of their misleading rules, without looking first at old written lessons.
Love is not a single decision. It involves several other progressive steps I could keep on following, as my personal, direct, and self-imposed choice.
In His service,
A. Toro. May 2015
I never loved a lame or an ugly woman. I never loved a tall or fat girl, because before I loved someone I needed to know I was liked or loved first. If I fell in love it was when I thought I have found the one I liked believing I was liked (or loved) in turn.
Love needs commitments. I should be willing to give assurances, to supply those things a person wants or desires, from me, from things she or he would like to get with my help.
Human love have normal human hindrances and willful limits. Same way I cannot achieve certain personal goals, by circumstances, problems or average limitations, love also has stumbling blocks to be achieved to the fullest. It varies, it evolves and I´ve tried to model it to fits my needs instead of other´s feelings or conveniencies. It dimmed when I feared, it was lost when I or another person abandoned it and doubts also cashed its tolls, although time will change me with unknown limitations, with the abandonment I treated those who gave their best for me and age is leaving me behind in a position where I cannot ask much more than I could give a young woman, whose material or sexual dreams could be beyond my actual or present range of reach.
Love, as it is, could be richly expressed in words of actions. Deeds speak better than useless words and a healthy love demands daily attentions, same way I´ve cared for myself or familiar loved ones: I ate, I cleaned and gave myself indispensable things, whenever they were asked or needed.
Christian love is not rhetoric, although it is properly aromantic and asexual, because that sort of love is not selfish and, instead, it is prone to be Christ-centered. I can love someone I don´t know by helping him/her without thinking in things I could receive later on. I can feed the needy, because I know I also have been fed. I can give attentions to those who looked like seeking it, because true love is built up on giving, rather than on receiving things in turn.
Visceral love is self-seeking. It longs to be sexual, although it disguises under the covering of romanticism, during the time we haven´t been real friends. “I liked you”, “you liked me”; but we haven´t learned we´re not totally equals, and a time will come to show us we needed to adjust some things to keep that comradeship going on.
Why do I like some persons, and why others not?
For me it´s easy to love a smiling child but, whenever he/she cries, why do I stop from feeling it as love?
If it is not giving me pleasure, if I´m lacking something like a feeling of reward or “something good” I´ve got as a beautiful asset I´ve kept home in my zone of comfort, everything seems to fall off, tearing me apart in pieces that I don´t want it any longer: That´s not love!
Love is a decision I willfully keep on following, as long as it is permitted to look after.
God, as well, seems to be interested in loving and, I´m not too wrong when thinking He has set limits to it, because He Himself knows there are conditions He has established in Himself and, no doubt, He also knows when a person is unwilling to love and to be loved. He surely knows there are several conditions spurring up people to love (Heb 10:24) and, being so, genuine love cannot be forced, because there are ideal conditions to grow it up -like a tree- and fears may be hindering it in your life now. How many times you believed you chose correctly and someone wronged you so bad…
I don´t know if I´m been perfectionated in the art of loving. Most of my life I tried to live it out the best way I could, but I failed dozen of times and I have no time to additional regrets and more whinings. The Scripture challenges me (and you) to keep it on and, if it wasn´t a “new” command (1Jn_4:21), I believed it´s an old thing I knew from old times: “Deut 6:5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your strength.” If I loved Him, I´m compelled to love, also, His creation and, as a condition I didn´t know of, that commandment is tagged along this: “Luk 10:27 The man replied, "The Scriptures say, 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, strength, and mind.' They also say, 'Love your neighbors as much as you love yourself.' "” because His love is not selfish or covetous, as we are inclined to be (Exo_20:17; Lev_19:17-18)
No one would like to love a problem, yet problems aren´t casted out, except when beaten and fought positively in daily battles and unknown confrontations. If we´re formed to live earthly with some character and lasting endurance, here´s another way to see love: “1Jn 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment. But he that fears has not been made perfect in love.”
How easy it is to love a sleepy or smiling baby but, when unwanted problems comes, my mind would change whenever I´ve liked to run and hide.
It´s easy to like a person when I´m liked but, the moment I see those things quite differently, am I willing to stay with that person I chose (thinking I was perfectly chosen)? No one likes problems, quarrels or useless discussions. The ideal love is not seeking troubles, but joy, peace and loyal bonds, and even mute animals love to express their joy with their loved ones.
Love is an special event and, similarly, such miracles of love are done when certain conditions have applied: Miracles and love are conditionals. I deserve nothing and, same way as miracles are received by God´s grace, love could be received and welcome when God permits.
I don´t want to miss this chance to tell it once or twice: Some people liked to help God when saying His love is unconditional… What a “holy” lie!
Let me put here a brief list of those verses showing He demands certain conditions to love those who approached Him:
I cannot love God, alone, without loving what He loved when He sent His only begotten Son: “Jesus answered: Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind. This is the first and most important commandment. The second most important commandment is like this one. And it is, "Love others as much as you love yourself." ” (Mat 22:37-39)
If I don´t have love (or faith) in His Son, I´m out of the blessings of His covenant, because I am not getting His “faith” standards : “Joh 3:16 God loved the people of this world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who has faith in him will have eternal life and never really die. ”
I´m already condemned by disbelieving: “Joh 3:18 No one who has faith in God's Son will be condemned. But everyone who doesn't have faith in him has already been condemned for not having faith in God's only Son. ” So, believing, is His main condition to receive what He has in stock for me.
Believing in Him is also obeying: “Joh 14:1 Jesus said to his disciples, "Don't be worried! Have faith in God and have faith in me. ” “My sheep know my voice, and I know them. They follow me, and I give them eternal life, so that they will never be lost...” (Joh 10:27-28)
The Father loves His Son and He wants us to listen and follow Him (Matt 17:5): “Then Jesus said to all the people: If any of you want to be my followers, you must forget about yourself. You must take up your cross each day and follow me. ” (Luk 9:23) If I do not cope with that, I´m not accomplishing the conditions of a follower.
How come would some people insist on saying God´s love is unconditional? That´s what they´ve believed by hearing those parrots talking about man-made ideas making use of their misleading rules, without looking first at old written lessons.
Love is not a single decision. It involves several other progressive steps I could keep on following, as my personal, direct, and self-imposed choice.
In His service,
A. Toro. May 2015
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